Missed a period. Peed on several different pregnancy test from several different brands. Now that you’re out of that crazy stage of shock because you can’t believe that more than four tests had the same answer, you finally make your doctor’s appoint.
Another pee test and an ultrasound confirm it. You’re pregnant! Now… who to tell first. Of course the father of the baby should know, but know how do you go out spreading the word about this joyous moment.
Just hold on before you start pulling out your phone-tree list of family and friends to contact. There is a certain way to handle a pregnancy and many seasoned mothers will tell you to hold off spreading the word until you’re in the clear.
Being in the clear never fully comes. What you are waiting on is for that stage in your pregnancy when the high risk of a miscarriage goes down. Miscarriages are common in the early stage of pregnancy. There are many attributes to it like, lack of prenatal care or not quitting habits of smoking and drinking early on. Also, having a miscarriage and the details of it are sensitive matters. So, be mindful about spreading the good news of your pregnancy.
What To Expect states that “most moms-to-be do wait to share their news until after week 13 of pregnancy, when the rate of miscarriage goes way down.” However the percentage of a young mother having a miscarriage is less than double that of a twice her senior. With those statics in mind, you should consider the advice of your doctor regarding your pregnancy and how comfortable you feel to spread the news, when you determine the right time to inform people about your pregancy. Besides coming up with that date, also schedule the date for when you will tell your employer.
It is not uncommon for a pregnant woman to wait until she is 14 to 20 weeks pregnant. Gaging this date depends on how your employers reacts to pregnancy and family. You may also want to make yourself knowledgeable about your pregnancy rights, in case you feel that you may be discriminated against for being pregnant.
Scheduling those two dates is important. You want to make sure that you are prepared and aware of how to handle certain situations that may arise, like the forseen belly rub by strangers. Health factors, changes in circumstance, employer’s reaction and your own decision as to how you want to proceed with your pregnancy are all elements to include in determining your right time to share.